…The words “homosexual” and “crossdresser” were thrown around quite a bit. There was lots of fearmongering about undefined “threats” to the “family.” Tony Perkins even said “abortion” two whole times, which, hello, look at #5 in my live blog from this morning. I knew it would be brought up, because it’s their other boogeyman, but I had a feeling it would be an afterthought. No, hating LGBT people was for dinner at Bellevue.
A pastor in her mid/late 50’s who also happens to be a lesbian speaking authentically about her life, her wife, and her experience of God. A young mother with a second child on the way who spoke, sometimes tearfully, of the things she and her husband take for granted, about how she was blindsided by how much deeper their relationship became when they got married, and about how she was speaking up because she wants her kids and their friends to be able to take those same things for granted, no matter who they love. A multi-racial lesbian couple who looked FAR too young to be raising a teenager, talking about just how mundane their “lifestyle” really is, as they go about raising a family together.
Hurst asks the question, “Which one of these things is truly “pro-family”?”, and it’s a very important question to ask.
In his closing paragraph, Hurst notes that for the religious fundamentalists in the “megachurch” across town, “… in order to protect their worldview, someone had to lose.”
He’s so right. Protectionists, regardless of the issue, believe in a zero sum game, where there must be winners and losers. The reality is that life is not a zero sum game. Life is about interdependence. We are not islands, but a network of peoples, with collective and individual interests. Until we recognize that we are all in this together, and should be working together for our common interests, we’re stuck in the rut of winners and losers. To quote former President Bill Clinton:
The more complex societies get and the more complex the networks of interdependence within and beyond community and national borders get, the more people are forced in their own interests to find non-zero-sum solutions. That is, win–win solutions instead of win–lose solutions…. Because we find as our interdependence increases that, on the whole, we do better when other people do better as well — so we have to find ways that we can all win… – Wired, December 2000